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This is a constructive way to split them I think - also what helped me was the notion of “good” and “bad” being smoothed out by a counselor years ago who helped a lot. We make so many inconsequential decisions in a day and week and month that sometimes it’s just big picture reactionary. No good or bad in what type of sandwich, or where to get gas, which leaves time to think about goals (ex: make time to exercise).

Also on a long enough timeline what was a good choice at the time can later take on negative association due to circumstances, and occasionally there’s no right answer in the first place. Just takes making a decision other than to stay put.



A shame can be converted to guilt if we learn how to forgive ourselves just like how we forgive others. That often puts us on right track.


I feel this is a profound statement - I'm unreligious and yet that aspect of some religions (forgive others that you may be forgiven) seems highly sensible and you have effectively completed the explanation of why it is sensible.




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