maybe this is shitty of me but i'm really sensitive to negativity. my wife tends to have moments of complaining a lot, and i've found repetitive but sympathetic responses to complaints helps her realize how much she's complaining and makes her stop without me having to actually ask her to stop. she's even commented some days that it feels like i've said "sorry to hear that baby" about a thousand times. and she's right, I do have days where is say it a ton because she's complaining a ton